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Get That Gun Away from My Daughter!

10 Apr

So here’s the scene: my 4-year-old daughter is sitting in a chair at the front of Claire’s boutique at the mall.  She’s about to get her ears pierced.  She’s terribly excited – she’s been asking to do this for ages and I’ve finally relented.

marking where the holes will be...

And now here comes the lady with the plastic gun.  It’s loaded with a cute, rainbow-colored daisy earring…

BAM!  The right ear is done.

My daughter starts to cry, either from the pain or the noise or the shock of it all.  I hold in all of my tears and grief and weird feelings and try not to make a scene.  My daughter, however, wants to make a scene.  A really big one.

She’s freaked out, and no amount of coaxing is going to convince her to sit still to have her other ear done.

My husband alternates between bribery and threats to get her to comply.  Dear daughter keeps saying she wants more time to think (in-between heaving sobs).  Every time hubby thinks he’s gotten her calmed down, she loses it all over again as soon as she sits in that chair.

Fifteen minutes go by.  Then thirty.  Then an hour.  By this point, I can hardly even swallow, I’m so stressed.

Soon a crowd of onlookers gathers, all of them women.  A kindly old grandmother advises us to just hold our daughter down and force her to get the other ear pierced.  A pair of tween girls show off their own earrings, and amidst lots of forced oohing and aahing, they tell her how pretty she will be if she can just summon the courage to do her other ear.

Right about this point is when I feel the bile rise in my throat and realize I can’t take it anymore…it all just feels wrong.

Is this well-meaning group of people actually telling my 4-year-old that she should suffer through her fear and pain just for the sake of beauty??!!  This is not a life-saving vaccine we’re talking about – it’s jewelry!

Once I got my stomach unclenched and found my voice again, I spoke up and got us out of there.  We ate lunch and I took my daughter back to Claire’s to have the first earring taken out.  She was a little heartbroken about it, but she got over it.  I told her she could make the decision about getting her ears pierced when she was a little older, which seemed to take a huge weight off her shoulders.  This was just too much for her.

A few weeks ago I saw a fabulous documentary called Miss Representation.  To quote from the website (www.missrepresentation.org), “the film explores how the media’s misrepresentations of women have led to the underrepresentation of women in positions of power and influence.”  The film was nauseating, and 100% right on the money.  Women are valued for their appearance, and chastised for not living up to certain standards – even when their jobs have nothing to do with their looks and everything to do with their intellectual capability.  (Remember all the media coverage of Hillary Clinton and Sarah Palin a few years ago – Hillary the ball-busting troll and Sarah the hot mom?)  I highly recommend watching the movie.  It’s eye-opening for anyone who is – or knows – a woman.

I kept thinking about that movie while my daughter was sitting there, wanting to go ahead with the other ear but scared stiff and now knowing what to do.  I shouldn’t have been such a coward; I should have spoken up right away and said:

“Hey, baby girl, you know what?  This is not an important thing in your life, or in the life of any woman.  It’s just decoration – it doesn’t define who you are or what kind of person you will be.  You’re beautiful because you’re kind and loving, not because of anything on your body.”

cute as a button, even without earrings

My 6-year-old son was too upset to stick around and watch his sister go through the piercing drama.  I hardly even knew what to tell him.  What message are we sending to our little girls – and our little boys – about this?  I know it’s “just” ear piercing, but is something OK if it’s painful or scary, as long as it improves your appearance or keeps up with everyone else’s expectations?

I was 4 when I got my own ears pierced, but my daughter may be 14.  Or 44.  Or maybe she’ll never do it, I don’t know.  It’s up to her when she feels that it’s worth it.  In the meantime, I hope she realizes – no, believes – that it really doesn’t matter.

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Kidtoon Movies

3 Jun

Studio Movie Grill in the Arlington Highlands offers Kidtoon Movies every Saturday and Sunday morning at 11 am.  Tickets are only $2, and the shows are usually older, G-rated fare (past offerings include Care Bears, Strawberry Shortcake, and Pinky Dinky Doo).  Movies rotate on a monthly basis.

June’s show is called “Thomas and Friends: Hero of the Rails.”

And while you’re there, check out the fantastic food!  It’s a little pricey, but the pizza’s phenomenal, and my kids love the grilled cheese.

For a complete listing of showtimes, click here: http://www.studiomoviegrill.com/theaters/arlington.php.

Cinemark’s Summer Movies for Kids

2 Jun

Starting this week, come to any of the metroplex Cinemark locations for kids’ movies this summer.  All movies are $1 each, or you can get 10 movies for only $5 if you purchase the tickets in advance!

Click here to find the schedule of a theater near you.

Classic Movies on the Big Screen!

23 May

Come to Movie Tavern this summer for some great retro cinema classics!

Schedule:

May 24: Jurassic Park

May 26 & 31: Poltergeist

June 2 & 7: Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade

June 9 & 14: Ghostbusters

June 16 & 21: Top Gun

June 23 & 28: The Goonies

June 30 & July 4-5: Jaws

July 7 & 12: The Princess Bride

July 14 & 19: Fast Times at Ridgemont High

July 21 & 26: E.T.

July 28 & August 2: Back to the Future

August 4 & 9: Close Encounters of the Third Kind

August 11 & 16: Gremlins

August 18 & 23: Terminator 2

Click here for times and locations.

I Am

18 May

This Mother’s Day I am taking time to reflect on what’s important in my life.  My mom heard about a movie called “I Am,” and she invited me to see it last weekend.  It was put together by a Hollywood producer (whose productions include Ace Venture and Bruce Almighty) who had a profound epiphany he’s determined to share with others.

This film sets out to answer two basic questions: what’s wrong with our world and what can we do about it?  The producer interviews several of today’s great minds to try and find the answers.

I have been on overdrive in my spiritual quest since my girlfriends and I began The (February) Prayer Project (click here for the blog).  The ideas introduced in this movie were not news to me; however, I feel they are so important, I wanted to share this with our readers.

This movie provided a lot of science-based (although skeptics will still try and debunk “quantum” physics) explanations for things Eastern philosophers and religious leaders have been saying for centuries.

One of the main lessons from the movie is connectedness.  We are all connected to one another.  There is no denying it.  As a result of the connectedness, what people say and do matters.  Every single interaction a person has has power: the power to promote love or fuel hate.

If you’re looking for change or need a jump start in your own spiritual quest, I highly recommend this movie.  Viewers will never be the same.  It’s playing now at the Landmark Inwood Theater in Dallas.  For movies times, click here http://www.landmarktheatres.com/market/dallas/inwoodtheatre.htm

To view the I Am trailer, click here http://www.iamthedoc.com/.

Night on the Town in Mansfield

27 Apr

Come to Town Park in Mansfield this Spring for “Night on the Town” movie nights!  Pack a picnic dinner and join the fun.  Along with other activities, movies will be played on a giant outdoor screen.

All movie nights will have games and prizes centered around the theme for that evening, and concessions will be available.  The playground at Town Park is brand-new and has lots of great features.  Sand volleyball and basketball courts are available for the older kids.

Town Park is located at 500 North Main Street in Mansfield. For more information please contact the Mansfield Activities Center at 817-453-5420.

April 30: Dog Show Extravaganza, Pet Parade & Vaccine Clinic at 5:00 p.m.; Dog Show judging at 6:00 p.m.;  Movie at 7:00 p.m. – “Alpha and Omega”
May 7: The Music Place & Arts Conservatory performs at 6:00 p.m.; Movie at 7:00 p.m. – “Cats and Dogs, Revenge of Kitty Galore”
May 14: Car Event at 6:00 p.m.; Movie at 7:00 p.m. – “Cars”
May 21: 1-mile Dragon Fun Run at 6:00 p.m.; Movie at 7:00 p.m. – “How to Train Your Dragon”

Special-Needs Screening of Rio at Studio Movie Grill

19 Apr

If you’re the parent of a special-needs child, you’ll love this one.  Studio Movie Grill offers screenings of movies with the lights turned up and the audio turned down.

Kids with special needs and their siblings are free; others are $5.

The next showing is Rio, rated G, on April 23rd at 11 am.

Tickets are available only at the box office.  For more information, visit www.studiomoviegrill.com.

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