Tag Archives: girls

Jiggle Butt Run 5K

30 Dec

Start the new year strong with a fun 5K run/walk for women and girls!  The Jiggle Butt Run is on Saturday, January 8 at 9:00 am at UTA (Mavericks Athletic Center).  There will also be the “Wiggle Butt Run” – a 1K fun run for kids under 12.

This event benefits SafeHaven of Tarrant County.

Click here for more information and to register for the Jiggle Butt Run. Online registration ends January 3.

For more information on SafeHaven, click here.

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Bias Against Boys

29 Oct

I feel like I’ve always been very progressive and open-minded in the way I raise my kids, but something happened recently that really disturbed me.  In fact, it completely shocked me and stopped me dead in my tracks.

My son asked me to paint his nails.

No, it wasn’t the fact that he wanted his nails painted that shocked me, it was the fact that when he asked me, I hesitated.  I didn’t come right out and say, “Sure, honey, sit up there next to your sister and I’ll do yours too.”  I, who consider myself to be so tolerant that I don’t even like using the word “tolerant” because it implies having to tolerate something (which to me, has negative connotations), hesitated because getting a manicure felt like something boys don’t do.

I have to admit, I was kind of disgusted with myself.  I’ve never had any problems letting my son play with toys that are considered “girly,” and fortunately, my husband is not the macho sort to have a problem with that, either.

I’ve never been the kind of parent – or person – to impose gender stereotypes on my children, or any children.  My son wanted a pink ball once, he got it.  A glittery unicorn?  No problem.  Try on his sister’s hairbows?  Sure, why not.  He also loves dinosaurs, his fire trucks, and sword-fighting.  So does his sister.

But this nail-painting incident made me realize that all of us, even me, are pretty biased towards boys, particularly little boys.

No, you might say, it’s always been girls that haven’t gotten a fair shake.  Haven’t you ever heard of women’s lib??

But think about it – most people I know would never think of telling their daughters, “No, you can’t play with those cars” or “No, pants are only for boys” or “No, you can’t be a fireman for Halloween.”

But that bias is exactly what some people impose on little boys who want to play with dolls, or watch a Barbie show, or…paint their nails like their sister.  We tell them that they are not allowed to explore certain little-kid things, because we as adults have too many hang-ups about it.

I truly believe that when you’re a little kid, colors are just colors, toys are just toys, and putting paint on your nails is just plain fun.

I haven’t painted my son’s nails…yet.  But the next time he asks, I know what my answer will be.

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