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Roundtable Discussion – Bed Sharing with Your Infant

18 Oct

When my kids were infants, I never slept with either of them.  Not once.  When they needed to nurse in the middle of the night, I would get them out of their crib, sit straight up, and turn on the TV (thank goodness for tivo!) to make sure I was wide awake.

At that time, I had never read any statistics on bed sharing or cosleeping that turned me off to the idea – I just felt like I couldn’t “trust” myself with caring for my babies if I was asleep.  Would I roll over on them?  Would I accidentally toss a blanket over their face?  I was basically so paranoid, I couldn’t have slept with them if I tried.

My husband and I also worried that if our kids slept with us as infants, they would never be able to sleep in their own beds.  We had panicked visions of never being alone together for the next 18 years – at least, not without a fight that would torment everyone in the household.

But I know that bed sharing is not uncommon among moms of infants.  Most who do it say that babies sleep much better with mom or dad next to them, and nursing is a breeze – you could sleep right through it!  For sleep-deprived parents, allowing your baby to fall asleep with you may be the answer to your prayers.

While some doctors advocate the “family bed,” many organizations, like the American Academy of Pediatrics, have sounded the alarm against the practice of bed sharing.  I know I’ve heard several news stories about babies being suffocated while sleeping in the same bed with their mothers (though most of those cases involved the adult being intoxicated).

Now that my kids are both preschool age, they have started crawling into bed with my husband and me in the middle of the night.  And we love it, because we’re no longer worried about their safety during the night.

What are your thoughts about bed sharing?  Have you done it yourself?  We’d love to hear about your experiences.

And please, let’s keep our comments informative and not judgmental!

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